- Follow your dreams and do what you love. Take time to find your inspiration and don't let dollar signs blind you. While more money would be nice, if you're not doing what you love, you will lose your zeal for life.
- Observe before passing judgment. Think more and speak less.
- Discuss ideas rather than discuss people.
- Always forgive and forget.
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Lessons
Monday, May 23, 2011
Observe
Actions speak louder than words.
While some have said something that may not have been most positive, their subsequent actions changed my life for the better and enabled me to fulfill my dreams, due to their unfailing understanding and mercy.
Others, who have claimed certain things in front of myself and their respective significant others, finally show their true colours in the way they act when they think that no one's watching.
Too bad when you talk too much and grow too absorbed into exerting negative energy, you fail to realize that people are in fact watching and are making a conscious effort to tolerate your ridiculous obnoxious ways.
While some have said something that may not have been most positive, their subsequent actions changed my life for the better and enabled me to fulfill my dreams, due to their unfailing understanding and mercy.
Others, who have claimed certain things in front of myself and their respective significant others, finally show their true colours in the way they act when they think that no one's watching.
Too bad when you talk too much and grow too absorbed into exerting negative energy, you fail to realize that people are in fact watching and are making a conscious effort to tolerate your ridiculous obnoxious ways.
Saturday, April 23, 2011
50/50
I had a discussion with someone about friendships/relationships a few months back ... and I know it may be unhealthy to be technical about how much you put into a certain relationship (any, really ... romantic, family, friendship etc.), but yet as you grow older, it becomes more apparent if it's 50/50 or 70/30. Obviously, the best ones that work the most are the ones that go 50/50.
It's a bit of a tug and pull if you notice that you're putting in way more effort than the other, and this is beyond personal perception.
If someone is nice and respectful to me, I will most definitely do the same. If someone is a little less than that, no more than a hi ... then no more than a hi our relationship will be.
I feel like I don't have enough minutes in a day to invest in a relationship just because I wanna give people the benefit of the doubt that they are good people within.
As cynical this post may be, it's unfortunately a huge reality of life that we all have to cope with and eventually shrug off.
It's a bit of a tug and pull if you notice that you're putting in way more effort than the other, and this is beyond personal perception.
If someone is nice and respectful to me, I will most definitely do the same. If someone is a little less than that, no more than a hi ... then no more than a hi our relationship will be.
I feel like I don't have enough minutes in a day to invest in a relationship just because I wanna give people the benefit of the doubt that they are good people within.
As cynical this post may be, it's unfortunately a huge reality of life that we all have to cope with and eventually shrug off.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Tornado
I haven't kept up with blogging for a few reasons:
1. I can hardly find the time to even make a delicious meal
2. I didn't want to document the fluctuations of my thoughts and emotions so I wouldn't have records of any negativity
3. Well, life hasn't really been all that eventful
However, I am making the effort to resume this peculiar habit (inspired by a recent character that I have a love-hate relationship for from a very acclaimed drama). Additionally, I've found myself within a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions that I really need to release.
First order of business: Graduating. I am for the most part sure it's happening. It's just that I'm cutting it so close that I can't afford any big screw ups. I also pretty much have the next five years planned ahead of me and I don't want any delays. Yes, life isn't set in stone and sometimes spontaneity is nice but a girl can have her goals, right?
As for the short-term, as in the next year or so, I've been posed with a few different options and I don't know where to go or what to do. I need a job to get through life 'cause I want my parents to retire. But more schooling seems to be a smarter choice 'cause I've seriously learned pretty much nothing of practical use in my university career. However, I don't want to be without income during eight more months of school - it's pretty scary to see my bank account deplete continuously. So pretty much, bottom line: I absolutely have no idea what I want. I just need one big obvious nudge like "Hey, you've got a job at [this amazing company]!" or "I'll give you a three-month internship again - go back to school and learn something useful!" Bah, I wish life worked that way.
I've gotten pretty frustrated with him lately. I love him and I know that he's the one I am gonna spend the rest of my life with but there are certain things that are a part of me that I can't change to match his lifestyle. I'm not budging on this one. I know not everyone grows up with the same family dynamics but I love my family. I love seeing them. Not every day mind you, but enough to get my dose of lovin'. And yes, I understand it takes a whole lot of someone to be at someone else's family gatherings 'cause you can't really fathom nor grasp the level of love needed to enjoy the company of someone else's family as much as you do your own. But when I go to my family gatherings, I want/need him to be there. He's been pretty good so far, but I hope someday it doesn't become a chore.
I never deal with grief very well. I fully know that my life will never be the most miserable when put into perspective but when hard news of extreme sickness or death comes knocking on my door coupled with my weak tear ducts, I really can't stop wondering how he/she will surpass this strange part of life, or how I'd live seeing my loved ones suffer. I cried for a very long time when my little brother was diagnosed with leukemia and when he was going through the most grueling moments of chemotherapy. I cried when I saw my mom in pain as she was dealing with endometriosis. I cried at work (and my boss saw -_-) when I got a call that my dad had to go to emergency 'cause there was something wrong with his gall bladder and needed surgery immediately. My great-grandmother is alive and well, but when I went to visit her this past summer, seeing her frail body, and seeing that she spends most of her days alone, I cried for I wish she wasn't alone 'cause at 96 years old, you're pretty much waiting for the end. My heart cried for a very long time these past 48 hours after finding out that my aunt who recently already had surgery for endometriosis, has been hit with even bigger news: Stage IV sarcoma in the rectum. The latter part of the diagnosis is scary nonetheless, but Stage IV usually means it's incurable, with a five-year survival rate of 10-15%. My heart breaks for her and I can't stop crying.
1. I can hardly find the time to even make a delicious meal
2. I didn't want to document the fluctuations of my thoughts and emotions so I wouldn't have records of any negativity
3. Well, life hasn't really been all that eventful
However, I am making the effort to resume this peculiar habit (inspired by a recent character that I have a love-hate relationship for from a very acclaimed drama). Additionally, I've found myself within a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions that I really need to release.
First order of business: Graduating. I am for the most part sure it's happening. It's just that I'm cutting it so close that I can't afford any big screw ups. I also pretty much have the next five years planned ahead of me and I don't want any delays. Yes, life isn't set in stone and sometimes spontaneity is nice but a girl can have her goals, right?
As for the short-term, as in the next year or so, I've been posed with a few different options and I don't know where to go or what to do. I need a job to get through life 'cause I want my parents to retire. But more schooling seems to be a smarter choice 'cause I've seriously learned pretty much nothing of practical use in my university career. However, I don't want to be without income during eight more months of school - it's pretty scary to see my bank account deplete continuously. So pretty much, bottom line: I absolutely have no idea what I want. I just need one big obvious nudge like "Hey, you've got a job at [this amazing company]!" or "I'll give you a three-month internship again - go back to school and learn something useful!" Bah, I wish life worked that way.
I've gotten pretty frustrated with him lately. I love him and I know that he's the one I am gonna spend the rest of my life with but there are certain things that are a part of me that I can't change to match his lifestyle. I'm not budging on this one. I know not everyone grows up with the same family dynamics but I love my family. I love seeing them. Not every day mind you, but enough to get my dose of lovin'. And yes, I understand it takes a whole lot of someone to be at someone else's family gatherings 'cause you can't really fathom nor grasp the level of love needed to enjoy the company of someone else's family as much as you do your own. But when I go to my family gatherings, I want/need him to be there. He's been pretty good so far, but I hope someday it doesn't become a chore.
I never deal with grief very well. I fully know that my life will never be the most miserable when put into perspective but when hard news of extreme sickness or death comes knocking on my door coupled with my weak tear ducts, I really can't stop wondering how he/she will surpass this strange part of life, or how I'd live seeing my loved ones suffer. I cried for a very long time when my little brother was diagnosed with leukemia and when he was going through the most grueling moments of chemotherapy. I cried when I saw my mom in pain as she was dealing with endometriosis. I cried at work (and my boss saw -_-) when I got a call that my dad had to go to emergency 'cause there was something wrong with his gall bladder and needed surgery immediately. My great-grandmother is alive and well, but when I went to visit her this past summer, seeing her frail body, and seeing that she spends most of her days alone, I cried for I wish she wasn't alone 'cause at 96 years old, you're pretty much waiting for the end. My heart cried for a very long time these past 48 hours after finding out that my aunt who recently already had surgery for endometriosis, has been hit with even bigger news: Stage IV sarcoma in the rectum. The latter part of the diagnosis is scary nonetheless, but Stage IV usually means it's incurable, with a five-year survival rate of 10-15%. My heart breaks for her and I can't stop crying.
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Got everything I need...
I really only had four things on my wish list this Christmas...
Each of which was slowly given to me, and I not only got what I wished for... I got much, much more.
I am overwhelmed with the love and joy that my family, friends, and the love of my life give me.
While I may sometimes look at another person's life and wish I had their luxuries, I can ask no more of God and finally appreciate the blessings He's bestowed upon me.
NTS: Be thankful and loving every single day ... and don't complain.
Each of which was slowly given to me, and I not only got what I wished for... I got much, much more.
I am overwhelmed with the love and joy that my family, friends, and the love of my life give me.
While I may sometimes look at another person's life and wish I had their luxuries, I can ask no more of God and finally appreciate the blessings He's bestowed upon me.
NTS: Be thankful and loving every single day ... and don't complain.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Age is just a number...
I don't think I've felt "old" ... in a really long time, if ever.
Reason being, I'm usually the baby of the usual group of people I hang out with since I'm the only one still in university, with everyone else engaged, married, and with careers.
Hung out with some great HK friends that are unfortunately not in the same stage of life that I am, but I still love them all the same.
The paradox of growing older is that... when we're young, we want to be a little older to have the liberty and opportunities to do things that we can't when we're not of age but as soon as we reach that age, we suddenly look back on our blissful youth and then wonder why we wanted to grow up so fast...
I always have to remind myself that being young is a great thing - that we can always grow older, but never younger. At the very same time, there is a very beautiful thing about getting older and hopefully all the wiser... We're (hopefully) achieving very lifechanging milestones that can't happen if time was stationary...
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Branding
Despite my final mark saying otherwise, I did learn a lot out of my marketing textbook (not from my prof). Anyways..
Being in HK, I'm surrounded by many more retail stores, and many more luxury brands in every district leading to much temptation for large and numerous purchases. Prior to my arrival I was determined to buy one luxury branded bag... As I continue to shop and as I continue to contemplate whether my expenditure would be worth it, I slowly drift away from my original plan to buy one.
Are we all puppets? In all honesty, just 'cause a Valentino brand and a $$$$$ price tag is slapped on something, doesn't make it beautiful nor practical. Some people buy for the brand, others for the supposed quality. A person decked out in complete Burberry plaid doesn't look respectable, they just end up looking like a clown. Louboutins aren't actually all that comfortable to wear but somehow people would pay hundreds of dollars for those red soles.
I still like my brands ... I just don't know if a few thousand dollar price tag on something is worth it :S...
Someone tell me otherwise! I have such a dilemma shopping in HK!
Is buying a large purchase an investment? Classic Chanel purses are getting more and more rare and they've increased the prices. You could perhaps resell your purse at a higher cost than what you originally paid for it...
I really did want to walk away with a monogrammed bag, but now I'm leaning towards bags that show no devotion to any particular brand, and as such no particular suggested retail price.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Old friends
Caught up with an old friend today and felt like I was 13 years old all over again.
I ended my attempt to make new friends and instead started to rekindle old friendships about a year ago.
It's brought me much more joy in an era where paths are known to immensely diverge.
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